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I have been a member of this site for years, nearly 10 or more to be exact. Yesterday I got into an argument with a black escort who had a few names to call me, so I called back. He reported me and they chose to suspend my account. I have supported the site for years, but no more. I guess all they really care about is getting more and more of their paying supporting [censored]s! It's no longer about hookups or making friends, it's about offering services even though there are hundreds of escort sites out there. This low life ### has just barked up the wrong tree! And yes, I used the word, when they can call each other that and they can call you names but you can't defend yourself, yes, I used the friggen word!
People get so addicted to hooking -up and having very unsafe, lascivious sex. It ruined my relationship with my partner . he's addicted to nightly hookups and couldn't stop.People lie about their profiles and even their HIV status.I knew a friend that uses this site a lot and just had a positive HIV test result. this is ridiculous, sites like this should not exist.It can destroy you mentally, morally and emotionally.
They need to be investigated. this should be Illegal in this country.
So you're mad at the site because your partner likes hooking up and your friend had unprotected sex. How about you make them take responsibility for their actions first...smdh
These sites are not for everyone. If you are in a LTR with a Partner my suggestion is to keep your partner happy sexually. I have notice alot of guys have a patner on this site, some where you are not making your patner happy. In 2000, I got involoved in a LTR with someone on the site and it was a good LTR. I have compliants about the site. It's not always about hooking up and going at it for 5 mins or more LOL. I have found some very interested guys on here that just wants to be friends nothing more. I am myself accepted the friendship. My opinon only this is a good site, a person can use this sute for whatever he wants too.
This is to comment again due to some mispelled words on the last comment. This site may not be for everyone. I canunderstand the comment the person made about guys having unprotected sex. In my experience I I found my lost partner on this site and I lost my lost partner maybe due to this site. But I have to take responsibilty in this as well. I may have not been doing what I need to do as a Partner to keep him happy. If you are doing what you need to do as a partner then you should not worry about your partner looking on this site for extra-activities with any other guys. This site can be use for many different things as we all know a Hook-up, friends only which I have met many guys that just only want to be friends. In my personal opinion I think this site is what you make of it... However if you are in a LTR please stay away and stay with you partner as they say it may break up a happy home. Good Luck Guys!
Here we go again! Blaming the victim! If your needs are not being met in your relationship, you need to discuss the issue with your partner. Some people do this and decide to open their relationship--there are varying degrees of this--it requires communication and, uh, you know--rules. But cheaters make their own rules--or don't bother with them at all. I can concede my partner might have gone outside our relationship because he had needs that weren't being met. However, bringing men home when I was at work--having sex with those men in our own bed--that was nothing but blatant disrespect for me and our home. (Not to mention--MY needs weren't even considered!) His cheating was only one of many major decisions--affecting both of us--that he made with zero input from me. You simply don't do that sort of thing to someone that you claim to love.
you are a ###, this site did nothing wrong this is your friends fault not the site do not blame a legit business for your partners or friends sexual activity. they control it themselves.
I have been a member of this site for years, nearly 10 or more to be exact. Yesterday I got into an argument with a black escort who had a few names to call me, so I called back. He reported me and they chose to suspend my account. I have supported the site for years, but no more. I guess all they really care about is getting more and more of their paying supporting [censored]s! It's no longer about hookups or making friends, it's about offering services even though there are hundreds of escort sites out there. This low life ### has just barked up the wrong tree! And yes, I used the word, when they can call each other that and they can call you names but you can't defend yourself, yes, I used the friggen word!
I've had an account with A4A for four years. Until this morning...when my account was "suspended." I have no idea why. There is no explanation as to what triggered the suspension. My e-mail has not received any word from
them. Nothing materially has changed in my profile or my pictures. I have not flamed anyone, and am always
respectful of the other person. There are always new people hitting me up for a meeting, but many of them I turn
down due to work and personal circumstances. Many of them are a half hour away by car, and I won't drive that far.
One thing I did do differently..which could have been a trigger...is that the last time I logged in without a problem,
I tried doing so using a free proxy server from another part of the globe..just on a lark. I logged out minutes later,
and that was it. Perhaps this one event was the one that prompted them to suspend me?
More importantly...is the "suspension" permanent? If so, maybe they should use the words "account terminated, " rather than suspension, eh?
I have written customer care at a4a, but I don't expect a response. Maybe someone here can give me some
insight? I don't plan on using them again under a different handle at this point. Comments anyone?
Adam4Adam is run by a few ugly, rejected, power hungry trolls. It reminds me of how gay.com used to operate. Now look at gay.com. Very few members. Adam4Adam will be replaced by some other website or app in the future just like gay.com was and the now power hungry trolls wont have any way to retaliate. Its funny because most websites and such that are personal site based are ran by bitter ### old or just unattractive queens and its their way of getting back at attractive guys. You do one thing they dont like and your banned or blocked. Its a power trip for them and you see it everywhere. From the flagging trolls on craigslist to the ones on Adam4adam. I want to see a site that will only block or remove you if you are a spam violator and for no other reason. We are all adults and if you cant act like one then you dont deserve to even be online. Report button is for losers.
I agree I have encountered several people on adam4adam who have tried to lure me to abandoned houses. Some try to get you to do porn and I found slot of the members in adam4adam are women pretending to be men and if they are men they are fat unattractive and lonely or party of some type of clique who might not even be gay. A bunch of criminals drug users and pay for sex dudes.
This site is full of deceit: fake pics, std's and a site administration that thrives on the ratchetness. It has been sited by the CDC as a major contributor to the increase in hiv and aids. this site is the worst it has ever been.
how does a website spread hiv?
PLEASE BELIEVE THIS, It is not the site, IT IS THE MEN USING THE SITE.
That makes as much sense as a soup sandwich
I agree!
It’s not what it used to be 5-10 years ago. I met good people I stayed connected with for years.
Nowadays with so many inexperienced people coming out with no positive role models for them. It becomes such a shame with the gays.
So many desperate naked hoes posting nasty pics that no one wants to see. It’s getting out of hands.
It’s the people/ the men using it not the web sites. The dishonest people you meet on there
Was on this sight several month met no one. waste of valuable time.
Didn't you guys ever hear of grinder? Way better. Geodesic too, so you know the lication and doin't have to drive far if at all. Oh, btw only works on ipad and iphones (from what I hear).
Its a site too hook up on take it or leave it... Guys have duplicate profiles and lots of fake pics. If you think a photo is too good to be true drag it to your desk top and do a google search on the image... and there you will see the same image on porn sites, thus stolen. Tech support sucks big time and very slow to answer emails on issues from slow speed to suspension. I imagine some dude working from home and signing in every few hours and handling issues at random. The admins are nasty on twitter if you tweet a complaint. Had a few good encounters but thats about it.
I completely agree that many people go to A4A because they are addicted to hooking -up and having sex with as many people without knowing what each others have. It seem that now these days people are not afraid of getting HIV since if you become infected all you have to is to find a local HIV clinic and get treatment for free. But the responsibility lies on the State and I feel A4A should be legal responsible for having such a site where people can just go and have sex as they please. Many people do lie about their profiles and even their HIV status. I used to do counseling for an HIV clinic all my clients stated that that they go to A4A and hook up without telling others they are Positive.
...But the responsibility lies on the State and I feel A4A should be legal responsible for having such a site where people can just go and have sex as they please...
do you blame the beds that they have sex in too?
Please be smart enough to not blame a website for people having sex...news flash, it has been going on longer than the internet
HIV is still fraught with most of the life threatening/life ending complications it always had. People are misinformed - mostly due to pc media that talks to people like they are children, and makes it sound like a cold - all this so people will test. For example, the incidence of high grade malignant lymphoma is increasing - a not unexpected outcome in HIV pozzes that live for 10 or 15 years or more. Most of these are difficult or impossible to get into remission and brain involvement is common right off the bat. Not a good way to go.
The viral titers are strictly for planning treatment...but a lot of these people think "not detectable" means they aren't infectious. this is NOT TRUE.
Always treat a new meet like hes poz. And if he wants to get to third base, keep some home tests available and test him right in front of ya.
your just a racist pig. an they call each other ###. not ###s dumb ###
It's you're not your
this site has got to be nothing but a site for male prositutes...and i am going to start printing out the profiles of the prostitutes and forward it to the local police department and also to the Federal Bureau of Investigation and i bet it will get shut down!
Illegal? That is what we need, more freedoms banned. That is why this country is not number one (if you have never left this country you cannot make that claim!) If something you do does not cause harm to anyone it should not be illegal.
In this case, site is fine, the individuals lying about their status, are not.
Again hold people responsible for their actions, not someone or something else.
American arrogance, actually I know many Americans who left and see what the rest of the world sees. A nation blinded by racism, hatred and discrimination. All under the guise of 'patriotism' you sound like every other psycho Trumper I've had displeasure of speaking to!
I'm not surprised that most of the comments on here about HIV are ignorant of the actual research into the virus. I'm not going to try to set you guys right, but frankly you don't know what you're talking about when it comes to the spread or symptoms of the virus. And that ignorance can be very dangerous to you and those you get intimate with. I find A4A to be a good system for meeting people for any reason. I've recently moved and it has helped me to make new friends and activity partners. Ultimately, what you use a chat system for depends on you. If you want sex, it's a great place to find it. If you want friends, it's great for that too. If you just want to chat without leaving your couch, you can do that. It's up to you.
Are you serious now!
Sounds pathetic to say.
If you tell me that A4A was that site you describe like 5 or 10 years ago. I will agree.
But nowadays, it is not. You won’t find any normal good people you use to find on there anymore. Someone told me most serious normal guys are moving on with Grindr air Jack’d.
I'm getting kinda disappointed with this Adam4Adam site.I've been on this site since last year and stated that I was looking for a serious long term relationship;but instead a bunch or guys would send me smiles, messages and even friend requests.When I send them a message confirming to meet at my place, we meet and have unprotected sex until it unexpectedly ends with a one-night stand.I tried to contact the man again about our future visit but I received no response from him;Then he blocked me for no reason at all.I clearly stated in my Adam4Adam profile:I don't want any one-night stands;but no one listens.Then I bet the man I had unprotected sex with is also having sex with other multiple guys regardless of their health and STD status.This is clearly why the spread or HIV/AIDS and other STDS are on the rise in America.I would never recommend this site to a friend.
This is why black guys stay away from white guys. You're all racist. All you want is black dick and don't care for black people at all. When you get mad, you want to call people ###s.
Exactly, or either serial killers or crazy, best to avoid and be on the safe side.
I’m a black guy and I’ll probably not agree with that. There is a majority of black escorts on there with no description of their sexual status. Why?
Some of them are pretty rude and nasty. No hard feelings towards m black men. I love you all !
But why do you have to portray yourself that way though!
Why have to sell yourself for money. That’s like sex slaves. They are the ones who make themselves available thy way because they know white guys want big dick and start selling sex for money. Why not showing some respect for themselves and then white guys will start respect them.
Respect is something you own. Not something giving to you.
Even on Facebook I have tons of black gay dudes. And it’s a turn off how those black gay dudes turn Facebook into sexual places now with nasty naked pics and so on. I call them nasty desperate hoes.
I love your way of thinking.
If your thinking of joining Adam4Adam.com...DON'T...This site consists of 99% either Fakes, Flakes and Game Players. In all actually these "hook-up" sites are adult video games...your the player and the profiles are your targets. When you do "hook-up" you will maybe at best you will get 25% percent of a honest answer about their HIV and STI status. There are many men that say their NEG on their profile and will bald face lie about their status. I personally know boys that have HIV and have unprotected sex and with their unsuspecting "hook-ups" and have personally had it happen to me(found out later from a mutual aquaintance he had HIV and lied to me) well I'm not dumb If I hooked-up with one liar no telling how many "boys" have lied to me and several other men I have had 2 relationships spawn from the internet. The first one ended up to be a sex addict and just recently well he ended up to be a socio/patho/narcissist. Adam4Adam and all other free "hook-up" sites attract low life losers, and as i said Fakes, Flakes and Game Players. It's a one in millions that you will find a "boy" that is worth trying a relationship with. Stay with a "hook-up " and remember these sites are FREE and anyone with an I.Q. of more than 2 knows that NOTHING is FREE. So with these sites it's a roll of the dice of what you get and this time your rolling the dice and at stake is your life. So ALWAYS USE PROTECTION and have the mindset that every "hook-up" is either HIV+ or has a STI. This is the honest truth about these FREE "hook-up" sites. And remember when you sign up your going to end up having more games played on you than all all the games in Vegas.
Anyone who trusts what any stranger says about his HIV status - no matter how or where you meet him - is a fool.
Majority of men in there are liars. You’ll be lucky to find a honest one. Stay away from those sites
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xxxr8d- has a new name xxiis he is Harrison Peebles when i looked the xxiis up his name only one stand out and was from russian and he block me when i told him who he was so track him down or the facebook name is fake too.
beware of users Arealone19 and ManNight19. this person claims they are looking for generous men and they are using fake pics and fake stats on their profile. these 2 accounts are the same person but with different stats. he tricks you into inviting him over and when he comes over he robs you. stay far away from this person and report him to the police if you see him. he is a criminal and he is bad news. when i called him out on what he was doing he blocked me because he knows he was busted. also he claims his name is zaciah which is probly fake too. he says he can only travel and cannot host.
an update on this, Arealone19 and ManNight19 accounts have been suspended. he is now using LampNoLyghts18. it is the same person.
My username is vinstud. I cannot get into my mailbox. Also, no messages are popping up.
What happened? peoples messages are not populating nor
if I click a person's name, nothing happens I can t send them a message.
please reset or do I delete my old messages?
Help
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Hi I accidentally deleted my account after receiving tons of spam emails from fake usernames on adam4adam.com and after I resigned onto my account using a changed username and same email address, I was suspended for little to no reason at all.Please tell me this is a mistake on their part.
Guys. Unlike most of the above, I have your website to be outstanding. I've arranged a number of very successful hookups using adam. I have one complaint, however, and one minor suggestion. Increasingly, the guys who have been contacting me, offer only a face pic, no there pics, and leave the profile page completely unanswered! And then, having given me no info., they want me to open up my private pics! Both incredibly rude and a total waste of my time...Yes, they are behaving like totally selfish fools, but who is really to blame? Sorry, you are. because you allow them to get away with it. If you care at all about your members ((and I know you do) you MUST require that anyone using Adam to contact a member, must fill out at very least the basic info on the form, ie. height, weight, etc. and in addition make some sort of statement as to who they are and what they want.., .At the very least the profile info. Otherwise, you aren't providing your members help in finding people but rather just burdening us with another source of worthless spam. Thanks, diesal484, (or diesal 848) Another matter, it would be a very useful addition to your filter, If you let members specify height as well as age, just saying...
First off I got Suspended on this stupid adam4adam dating site and don't know why I was suspended which is to me a complete waste of time because I tried to contact them and I never heard from them in months(or maybe years.)
Secondly I'm sick and tired of getting negative votes or comments at the bottom of my name on here because nobody agrees with me.Maybe it's some troll or hater who's miserable and is hating on me for something they're against.If you don't like what you see, move on and keep the hateful comments to yourself.
Thirdly after getting suspended on this stupid website I signed into Jack'd and Grindr and I'm alot happier on there.Of course I dealt with fakes and scammers on there but not as much as adam4adam.
They show their junk as thir profile pic but when they get messages that they're cute or what they don't like about you, they block and report you and I think it's rude and childish.
I learned something here that It makes no sense getting riled up everytime a bunch of idiots online gives you a hard time.
Having to navigate through the toxic muck of a gay dating app is rough, but until society changes, and gay men have positive gay role models to emulate and look up to, and until gay male attitudes become more enlightened, there isn't much anyone can do about it. I wouldn't blame the apps, they simply expose who we truly are in our community. Doesn't matter what app you use. Those same guys using a4a are also using grindr & jack'd. Those two apps are simply newer and have more users than the older a4a that most have moved on from, like MySpace. You may not see the same b-bags on the newer app cause there's a lot more d-bags to sludge through. The gay community can be toxic and it does need some work. But I'm sure the str8 community has its own issues as well.
I totally agree my friend. Gay men need to have positive role models. I still so sad. That is when someone knows you’re gay, they start to worry so much about you. Not because society acceptance towards gay and so. But because of how gay people portray and deceiving themselves… some of them as some nasty low life depriving nasty skanks.
If I have a friend, family member or whatsoever tell me you’re gay and try to come out too. I will start worry about you and pray that you know what you’re doing because you’ll be exposing yourself to a lot of dangers with gay people with some of gay people that might be very bad and negative influences to you.
Don’t get me wrong. People are people. They are also very good people out there who are gay
You’re a breath of fresh air. I recently made an account on Adam for Adam. It’s been one scammer after another. However when I don’t take their bait they quickly stop talking or they move on.
Wish I could find your profile somewhere.
That is what has happened with me on A4A. Either the person and I will chat for a minute before they attempt to steer me towards WhatsApp or Telegram, at which time I decline, I don’t bother to chat because I decided that I need not chat with a possible scammer NOT near my location, or they move on. I’ve had some where, we are to hook up, followed by a “On your way here, I need you to get a gift card for my nephew, little brother, or son.”
Great observation but some of us are discreet men who have nosy partners and are using family sharing or having access to each others phones. All this makes it hard getting on the app. If flakes and fake profiles suggest apps that could cause problems. Which is a better and safe and private messaging platform. To text and set up meets and private conversations with End to End user encryption which means no third party accesses conversation with someone you have great chemistry and similar desires.? Kindly assist because WhatsApp actually is private and has several security features I suggest you take a thorough review about any messaging platform suggested including telegram but if Freaking SCAMMERS use this technic to manipulate.. what’s the best way for “ but some of us are discreet men who have nosy partners and are using family sharing or having access to each others phones. All this makes it hard getting on the app. and will have to delete app soon too ok avoid get caught. Kindly assist with a good solution and help
It's sad but to be honest, i'm not sure if this is the age we are living in or just this and many gay sites in general. All I can say is that I didn't have issues dating the opposite sex when I was in my twenties. Now, I find about 80% of profiles are fake especially the one's where the profile has "professional" pics on it or the person is unusually good looking. Sad but the more "average" looking the profile has the more chances that it is the real deal. Other issues, like many I have noticed, is that there are no communication skills. Guys will give me a phone number to txt, just after starting a chat and then I ask a question about time there, and they block you? really? I have had people ask me a question and then leave and not come back that night. wtf? I wish I could just find regular parties to go to. I thought sites like this would be a godsend but guess I was wrong. I will ask peple to prove their HIV or Covid status. It's not enough to put it on profile. I have attempted a few times to let the company know about the things above but they don't respond. It's a shame as it seems very well setup in the physical sense. One other thing. I have seen profiles from the same city as me and they are 7400K miles away? Yet another indication that ppl are lying?
I got same thing happened to me. I’m black and got that black escort hit me up. We started having a nice conversation. Then I reviewed his profile regarding his sexual status. He left that blank. I asked about his sexual status. He pretended he didn’t know what that is. I asked him if he was negative or positive. Then all the sudden I got called by all those names including names like: Tina… and so in. And then told me just because someone put their sexual status is negative you never know what kind of diseases they have in their system and can pass on to other people”. Which I agreed with him. But there was no need to get upset with someone just because they asked about your sexual status when you are trying to hookup with someone saying you are looking for right now. He told me he was going to block me and report, and I told me to go and do whatever he wanted to. Then after all, I tried to talk to someone I knew on there and I was marked as spam. Since I’m not longer interested in this site with those low life escorts/ spreading hiv and all sort of diseases around in there.
Hello there I have Ben a member of Adam4adam for a long time but I am really thinking hard about closing out my account because Adam4adam is not checking id cards very well because this has happened two times ware I have to talk to cops or parents because there son was on a gay web sight and the only way that a 15 year old kid can be on Adam4adam is if he has a fack Id card or yousing some one else birthday be careful I think that some one is setting people up on Adam4adam I will never be yousing them ever again if that can do there job I am not going threw this ever again
I think I was just scammed by a 15 year old posing as a 19 year old, and then his dad contacts me through text message saying the boy smashed his mom's computer to hide our conversation and then asks me to replace it. Is that anything like your experience?
no you were not scammed wean I had my account with adam4adam I had to people send me messages saying they were in there 30 and come to find out they were 15 years old I had the cops call me and the father and they wanted me to send them money or they would file charges on me just be careful on adam4adam there is a lot of guys posting they are older but there not I don't have my account on there any more because I don't now what is true or not
Hi. Thanks for the response. They asked me for money, too, to supposedly pay for the mother's work computer that they claimed the 15 year old smashed when the parents found out about our conversation. They, too, said they'd go to the police. This is what makes me think it's actually a scam that's used over and over again.
Also, are you sure it was really the cops calling you?
This exact same thing just happened to me I screen shot everything and called the scam lawyers who specialize in this and block the numbers
Do not entertain that for another second. I’ve had 2 different friends come up with the same nonsense. Next they’ll threaten to call the cops for chatting with underage. Screw these scandalous [censored].
I know that it has been awhile since you posted and I am now just seeing this and responding to it, but it sounds as though there is a possibility that you came across someone attempting the sextortion scam with you. You can read all about these on Reddit.com/sextortion. You’ll chat with someone and, in most cases, they will steer you to either another chat platform, ask you to exchange compromising photos and then, after you do so, here comes the fake dad or police officer trying to entice you to send money in order to “make this go away.”
First of all they don't check ID when you join Adam4Adam. Second of all you need to start checking ID. But like I've been a member of all of these sites Grindr scruff Adam for Adam sniffies all of them even all the way back to gay.com and AOL days and I have never once had to speak to a police officer because I suddenly found myself in danger of pedophilia. So this seems more like a you issue. Maybe you should stop seeking people that are obviously too young. I don't even think that this is a regular occurrence that people face. Only certain people ever get in trouble for pedophilia and that's people who are acting in pedophilic ways. You should adjust your behavior instead of expecting to app to adjust something. Did you show your ID when you opened your account? Come on bro nobody did
It just happened to me…. It’s amazing what these people will do….. they must stay up all night to plan this [censored]…. First Parent text me because I was stupid enough to give someone I thought was 28 my phone number….. then tell me if they’re going to call the Internet police… someone posing from a cell phone mind you… told me did I understand that this child is 15 which, of course I didn’t… but the father won’t press charges…. If I pay for the computer, he smashed while he was making me new movies which I never received…… Yeah, I had some choice words for them…… be careful guys. There is so much scam and [censored] out there. It’s incredible.
Just had this exact same thing happen to me, what did you do they just had a Investigator contact me 2 weeks later
That happened to me also in September 2022. Same thing.
I haven't read the other comments but I just want to make sure that you're aware that the N word isn't a defense some unsure how you were using it to defend yourself. But clearly the site is better off without you. Although I'm sure you're all ready back by now with a new account with a different email address because it's really not that [censored]ing difficult. I'm going to leave this comment and go on my merry way thinking one of two things happened either you took your ignorant racism and are now polluting one of the many other sites and apps that we have or you realized the position of your wrongdoing and now have become able to freely move about the cabin in a much more humbled state. Although I still will always find myself wondering for at least for the next 10 minutes before I've completely forget about you exactly what it is that you were defending yourself from by using that word. But hey like the sports people always same the best defense is a good offense and I guess that's what you did was you made a good offense. I'm just shocked that there's actually a person low enough in existence to have been kicked off of one of these apps. You should bear that in perspective
You actually made a false assumption that “they” call themselves that based on what facts? “They” because of what you heard on some rap songs? That would be a false assumption since I never heard Will Smith, Salt ‘n Pepa, Eminem, Vanilla Ice or some other rappers use the word in their music. Also, I have heard women call each other the b-word and c-word. With your logic, are you saying that I have the right to call all women this? Also, I’ve heard gay men call each other the q-word or f-word. Again, does your logic allow you to feel fine with all straight people using the same terminology for gay people? Sounds like you are a sad individual finding any reason to be racist when someone hurts your widdle feelings.
I understand…. You were mad….. but try to challenge them intellectually…. Not by race…. There are some eloquent curse words you can use where the sons of [censored]es won’t even realize they’ve been insulted till next week….. don’t seem to their level… that’s the problem that we do on an every day basis…. There is a more effective way to let somebody have it without resorting to race.
I hope this is resolved without too much problem. I am truly sorry that this is going on if you wish I will delete my account
One of your customers claims he is going to blackmail me and expose me as being gay. My username is _jud_jud the one claiming to blackmail me is daddycool please help me in this I will be talking to my attorney Jonathan j Paul in Houston Texas later this afternoon
Its 2024... what's good for the goose is good for the gander... Freedom of speech prevails in my opinion... oh, wait, isn't that part of our laws?... This privilege thing is about to see a revolution... you did good!